“Purity in a Relationship & Self-Control”
Sex outside marriage is not God’s ideal for you because it takes something wonderful out of context. It’s just like a fire. When you light a fire in your fireplace, it can be a wonderful thing – it provides warmth, light, and energy in a contained space. However, when you take that same fire and place it outside its proper context (the middle of the living room floor), it blazes out of control and leads to untold damage and destruction.
Sex is a life-uniting act, and it should be the result of intimacy and oneness within the context of a committed marriage. As harsh as this may sound, having sex outside marriage is usually about selfish explotation. Sex then become mutual agreement to use each other for mere pleasure. God makes it clear in 1 Thes 4:3-6, that we are to control our body in a way that is holy and honorable. Likewise, we should control ourselves as a way to honor and respect our partner.
For some couples this may be hard (to maintain a sense of control in saving the physical for marriage) . But believe me, God is ready to give His hand as long as we totally surrender our struggle to Him. You and your partner must be willing to commit your purity to God until the day you are proclaimed “husband and wive”. This commitment needs great work to maintain not only from one side, but both of you. What you sow in your relationship is what you will reap later in your marriage life. If you sow seed of lust then you will not reap seed of true love, you will not be able to discover the true love means outside enjoying each other in lust, romance, and having sex. Don’t let physical intimacy be the focus on your relationship, there are many other aspects of intimacy (giving, spending quality time, listening, serving one and another, etc).
Just because I’m writing this blog entry doesn’t mean I am safe from the temptations. And just because you are a Christian (and so is your partner) doesn’t mean both of you are also safe. But I know Holy Spirit is always ready to help when we are tempted, as long as we are willing to be helped. In my opinion, we are not safe until we are declared legally as a marriaged couple in marriage registration as well as in God’s eyes (yes you still need to be careful although your marriage is in another month away).
If you never have this kind of problem in your courtship (dating relationship), PRAISE THE LORD!!! If you do, please feel free to share (can be in comment section). We can pray and walk together to stand strong in the Lord until we hear those words “you may now kiss the bride” 🙂
“Not by my might, not by my power, but by the Spirit of God” – Zachariah 4:6
GBU all 🙂