In February I and my husband agreed to fast together to seek God’s wills in each of our individual life as well as collectively for our marriage and family.
One word that I receive during the period is: “UNITY“. It is a simple word, but seemed like it’d been buried deep down amidst life busyness and “cruise control” operating mode for our marriage.
I was reminded and rebuked at the same time, when I was angry was it because of my concern for my husband or concern for our marriage? I have to honestly admit that most often, I was angry because he offended MY feelings.
It’s not like we as couples are not allowed to have arguments, but my concern is we too often fight for issues that are simply rooted from our SELFISHNESS instead of fighting for causes that have eternal impact to God’s kingdom on earth!
This marriage certainly needs a greater focus; a greater plan, purpose, and calling rather than our own selfish agenda.
Otherwise, what differentiates our marriage as Christ believers with others?
We need the unity to love God above ourselves,
because it is difficult to love our spouse without having our relationship with God restored.
“You don’t fix a marriage first horizontally; you fix it vertically” – Paul David Tripp.
I’m still praying for His grace to make this revelation becoming real in my daily practical life.
For now I shall close with another quote from Tripp,
“If you are God’s children,
it is never just you and your spouse,
somehow hoping that you can work your way through your problems.
there is a third Person who inhabits every situation and location of your marriage.
He is with you, He is willing, and He is able to come to your aid”.
What a good news!
I never walk alone.
When He calls, He always equips.
I know He has prepared a greater plan and purpose for my marriage, and this year is like my “wake up call”.
Have a blessed day and marriage beloved (maybe one day I can write about “courtship” topic based on my experience for my single friends 😛).